Feedback is very important, usually when something is not working out, we tend to focus in analyzing the actions of the other people involved. And most of the time, you assume that things are going to happen just because you said so, or even worse, you tend to think that the other person could figure it out on her own what you expect them to do because “it’s so obvious”, “it’s what everybody should do in that situation”.
Before blaming the other side , ask yourself this questions: what are you doing that is working/ is not working? You have all the intentions to succeed, but where do you need to make some adjustments? Do you have a blind side? And if you believe you do, ask for feedback.
You can start by expressing your intention, saying something like: I want to make this work or I want to learn/improve/succeed that is why I’m asking for your feedback. Then you can ask: What do you think of ….?or Can I have your opinion about… What would you do in this situation? What do you think I can do different? A constructive feedback should help you to reinforce the positive aspects, and make the necessary adjustment in the things that are not working. And in order to really succeed you need to be committed to listen, to understand and to act based on the feedback you are receiving.
The most successful people I know are the ones that are able to be nourished by the human exchange of their relationships; the ones that want to be better and dare to “take a look in the mirror”.