The problem is that we get used to live with our “should story". We know what we need to do, but we just don’t do it. We become pretty good at tolerating the things that need to be changed in ourselves or in our lives. We don’t pursue the Best because we are comfortable with the Good, sometimes too comfortable. Are you feeling alive? Are you excited about something in particular? Can you name the last
achievement you added to your life resume? If the answer is no, you have spent too much time in your comfort zone and could probably start thinking about a little of self-growth.
James O. Prochaska in his book “Changing For Good- Overcoming Bad Habits And Moving your Life Forward” says that you need to be ready to change in order to make significant changes in your life. He also emphasizes that in order to succeed you first need to identify the stage of change in which you currently are in.
How can you know that you are ready? Here are the 6 stages:
1. – Pre-contemplation (Not Ready)- You have no intention to take action. You are aware that you need to start doing things differently but you don’t consider your behavior to be problematic…yet. If you are here, ask yourself what will happen if you keep up this behavior for the next 3 years? What will it cost you? How will you feel about yourself?
2.- Contemplation (Getting Ready)- You start to think that your behavior is problematic because your life satisfaction level, your happiness and well -being level have flat lined or are decreasing. You start analyzing the pros and cons of a possible change.
3.- Preparation (Ready)- You have decided to take action in the immediate future, you have a plan, and you may have even started taking some small steps towards your goals.
4.- Action – You already have made some modifications in your behavior, your routines, your habits and even your attitude. And
you have started to see results.
5.-Maintenance – You are committed to sustaining your actions on a long term basis. You are prepared to prevent auto-sabotage, avoid common pitfalls and overcome unexpected setbacks.
6.- Termination – You have zero temptation to return to your old patterns, behaviors or habits. You are definitely enjoying the
process of becoming the person you aspire to be. You feel totally responsible for your life and proud of your results.
So, where are you now? Has your time to change arrived?