This is not a question of democracy. This is not a question of shared leadership, and of course, it is not a pursuit of equality. You are the captain and it is your responsibility to take the crew to a safe harbor without riots or rebellions that threaten the safety or destiny of the ship and its members at sea. So, be sure you are setting the expectations and rules for your “crew”. They need your discipline and structure. So, work to be clear and consistent in the application of rules. This will make them understand some principles about decision making and consequences in life.
Don’t be afraid of demanding the best from them; raise the bar. If you set the example and give the best of yourself, they will deliver. That is why is important you don’t lose your temper and always maintain composure. You wouldn’t like to see
an hysteric, depressed or inarticulate Captain when the strong waves are slamming against the hull, right?
A leader is always being observed. Actions will always be more compelling than words. So, dear Captain, commit and work in your areas of opportunity, keep growing and developing as a person. You are human. You are not perfect. Your children will understand this sooner or later when they try to do things on their own. But, they will always recognize that, despite the
storms in the sea of life, heroism lies in the pursuit of always trying to deliver the best version of yourself.
Your little sailors will grow up and start their own quest. Be sure that, in the process, you provide them with a steady guiding figure. A determined, tireless and inspiring role model. Someone they can call: My Captain, My Hero.
In memory of FTR & NCO my captains and heros